HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

my best friend (mark) is good friends with all these people in a band. one of those people in the band are named John. Mark called me with John on the other line. We talked for a while, and Mark showed John my myspace. Apparently, he thinks I am "insanely hot" and was talking to Mark about how bad he wants to "bone me." I was joking around on the phone and told John I'd give him a lapdance if he gave me and some friends a ride to the movies. So i probably led him on or something. Because I don't do things like that. Mark is having a party on Saturday and the whole band is going to be there. I'm afraid this guy John is going to try something on me and I'm not sure how to handle this. I've heard some bad things about John also, that he's an alcoholic and has a bad home-life. I know the typical answer is to "not go" to the party but I'm going to eventually meet this guy John somewhere because he's friends with a lot of people I know. And I really want to go to this party. what to do?

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

A) You shouldn't hang out with those type of people.

B) If you are going to go anyway: Tell him no. Carry mace, and report him to the police if he tries something.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

sounds like you should revise your list of friends. why do you hang around with scum like that?

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Go to the party, and if he tries to place a move on you, stop him. Tell him nicely that you don't want a relationship with him, and you'd much rather be friends. If he gets angry, just walk off, theres now point getting involved with a guy like him. He sounds like bad news. End it while you can

Good luck!

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

give him the snub.. or ignore the guy that is going to hit on you, or go with a date..

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

just tell him straight out that you were playing and you're not really like that. maybe you should get someone to go with you when you talk to him just in case he tries to do something to you.

Hope this helped...

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Just tell him you were kidding and would Never give him a lap dance....You are surprised he even believed you...

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

My best advice is to have your friend Mark speak to him and tell him to mind his manners around you, and his hands. Under no circumstance be left alone with him. Always be in the company of one of your friends that you trust. When you do meet him, keep him at arms length and talk to him nicely. If you start flirting with him he may take it that your offer is valid. And for your own sake dont do this again. :)

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Keep a distance and do the Buddie system....always have a friend at your side.

If he confronts you....say Om...I was J/K J/K...smile and laugh it off.....and keep where there are a lot of people.

Best wishes

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Just go to the party and when he asks for the lapdance tell him that you were only kidding.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Just go. You can hide forever. You led him on for a joke, but now make it clear to him that was it. If you're so afraid for your safety, pack some heat (stun gun, mace, whatever)

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

You will do what you want to do...If you are asking for our advice, is it so that you will do the opposite??? I would say "Don't Go." And avoid these two losers..and try not to say such things about lap dances in the future...you are going to talk yourself into big trouble that you might not be able to get out of.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

So you just tell him no if he tries something. If he mentions your offer of a lap dance just laugh in his face and say "you didn't actually think i was serious did you???"

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Go to the party and have fun! If he tries to do something just tell him that you're not comfortable with that. Tell him you would like to get to know him as friends before anything happens. That way he knows and you have fun!

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Tell him you are sorry but didn't think through your promise and give him $5 for the ride he gave you. You don't owe him anything and if he tries anything make a scene and don't get into any situations where you will be alone with him. Don't challenge him but don't let him know that you are afraid of him.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

well for one get rid of your three way calling it causes too much trouble, like have you seen mean girls? anyways, i think the guy will understand that you were just kidding around, if he doesnt then just be around your freinds when he is near you, dont go anywhere alone with him.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

Your body-your choice. If he tries something and you don't want anything to happen get away from him any way possible. Also take a can of "Mace" wost case scenario is you spray him and run!

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

I had to read this twice to understand what you had done.

John didn't give you a ride to the movies. So there will be no lap dancing.

As much as you want to go to this party, you should go. Be a lady though. No boning. No sex. Get to know him, see if you like him. And if he tries something and you refuse, and he gets mad...

So what. He will get over it, and move on to someone else, if indeed it's sex he wants.

Don't get a bad rep doing what others want you too.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

you know you should not go to the party. if you cannot trust him to behave well the last place you want to be with him is at a party where there would be alcohol and God knows what else. or u could go early before he gets to drunk and try to explain to him that you were only joking when you flirted with him and hopefully he will buy that

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

act casual. dont let anyone know that anything is wrong. if you make eye contact just smile and carry on what you are doing. if he approaches you, just tell him that you were totally just messing around to see what kind of reaction you get. BTW, i dont think he'll be expecting anything from you. it sounds like you are a little to immature to handle a situation like this, i guarantee its not as big a deal to him as it is to you.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

We all make mistakes. Yeah, you probably led him on, but you can fix it. Make sure if you go to the party that you go with a friend you trust. Make sure that she is with you at all times. Don't drink alcohol either. It will lower your inhibitions. Remember, you don't want to make another mistake. Try not to judge someone by their homelife either. You'd be surprised at the amount of people with horrible homelives that end up being brilliant people. If you don't want anything to do with him, just be honest with him and tell him you were just playing around. If Mark knows you well, he can back you up on it. You have nothing to lose. The worst John can say is that you're a tease. Big deal. Nothing wrong with not being easy.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

just go and have fun. every 1 makes mistakes every once in a while. even i did and i'm a sophomore in high school.

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

ode to be young again-- everybody says things that at the moment seem harmless. It is very important that if you go you surround yourself with friends you trust. Maybe make a "meeting" place to meet your best girlfriend every half hour- saftey words- don't drink to much.

it sounds like your young if you needed a ride to the movies, so learn a little something about this. Listen to your gut and above all else be strong.

Women have an incredible amount of power- and i'd hate for you to think that the only way to prove this is with your body.... remember to respect yourself, speak up and be honest.

tell the dude to lay off if he says anything to hurt your feelings.

don't be fooled by his ..wanting to make you feel bad....

be proud, be strong, be smart

oh yeah- stay in school :)

HELP ME! i made a mistake. and now i don't know what to do? be nice?

I would ask first if you did receive a ride to the movies from the guy John?? If Mark is your best friend, he will know that you were only kidding on the phone that day with John. Tell Mark you may need his support during the party in the event that the guy John approaches you and decides to take you seriously on YOUR OFFER. I capatalize that because hopefully you are learning to be careful of what you say to guys you don't know that well because you can land yourself in an awkward or dangerous situation.

Go to the party, have a great time. If you run into John, just act like it was all a big joke and you have no intention of a lap dance. If he makes a big deal out of it, give Mark a signal that you need help. My friends and I always had a pre-arranged signal before we would go out to let the others know that we needed someone to intervene. One of our signals was to grab our hair up, gather it at the back and hold it like it was in a pony tail. Anyone would think it was a normal gesture, but we each knew it was a distress signal.