Confused with sexuality.?

I've been bouncing back and forth between bisexual and lesbian and sometimes, I'm like "Woahhh, she's HOT." Like physical attraction, you know? And there's this really hot girl and I decided to try to talk to her through myspace and while I waited for her reply, I started to get this bad feeling inside of me. It feels HARD, a hard rocky feeling (in my chest/kinda in my tummy). She finally commented back and my pictures too. I was like "Yess" but that feeling is there, hardcore.... It's not nervousness, really. I did feel it a little, but it's just something hard and stiff inside. Is that instinct and gut feeling? Anxiety? What is that feeling?? (Don't think wrong, it's immature.) I think boys are gross.

Oh and.. I got an answer saying there is a difference between being physically attracted to the same sex as to being in a relationship with them... can I get an explanation?

Does being molested for 3 years (6yrs to 9yrs old) when I was younger have anything to do with it? I am now 1

Confused with sexuality.?

I think molestation has a HUGE impact on sexual identity. I, myself, was molested when I was a young boy by a man and I think it had a huge impact on my sexual identity. I identify myself as a heterosexual but have had moments of sexual desires with men (mostly attractions to the male anatomy).

Granted, I also believe that this may or may not be the case with anyone else and can only speak from my own perspective.

I've finally succumbed to the "it is what it is" mentality and accept that I'm a unique individual with unique desires and only I control what I want or don't want.

You have to be comfortable being who you are and find people willing to accept you as you.

I hope that makes sense and helps out.

Confused with sexuality.?

I'm sorry to hear that you were molested. A lot of people who were molested as children wonder about their sexuality --as in: am I gay because I was molested. For a lot of people, they believe they were born to their sexual orientation so being molested didn't cause it. Have you received any counseling? I hope you will consider seeking counseling because a lot of people who were abused tend to have many underlying issues that need to be resolved. In fact, many end up "self-medicating" with alcohol and drugs.

If you are attracted to women, you are probably a lesbian. Just because someone is a lesbian, it doesn't mean she can't be attracted to men at all, nor does it mean she never has sex with men. Many lesbians have sex with men occasionally.

Whatever you decide to do, congratulations on accepting your feelings and refusing to become a slave to other people's opinions.

Confused with sexuality.?

I just think you should stop worrying about labelling yourself. Follow what your mind, heart %26amp; body wants. Experiment, and you'll eventually find yourself.

Confused with sexuality.?

you said it yourself, your a bit confused, probably a bit scared new things are scary for all of us. i think you need some help to work out what that stiff feeling inside is wnd what it means. Your experience of abuse as a child will impact on you, i hope you can find someone professional to talk to that you can trust, to help you work out just what is going on inside of you. That is the most important thing. You have a whole good life ahead of you, you will be a fine young woman regardless of who you love you dont need to work it out yet. But you do need to be comfortable in your own skin and save the most love for your beautiful self,

Confused with sexuality.?

I don't think molestation would make you a lesbian.

Think of it this way... If being molested causes someone, male OR female, to become attracted to the sex opposite of the ones who raped them-- IE, girls raped by men become lesbians-- then males raped by males would be straight. The idea makes little to no sense.

And of course there's a difference between being sexually attracted to someone and in a relationship. I've been in several romantic relationships with the same sex, when I felt no desire to have sex with them. I am friends with all sexes and genders-- being friends is a relationship-- and I don't want to have sex with them. Sex and love do not go hand in hand for every occassion.

And that odd feeling is attraction. :P I felt it when I called my interest for the first time... and every time I anticipate a call or talking to him. Knowing that...

If you think boys are gross and think "She's hot" towards girls... I'd think you're a lesbian, which isn't ANYTHING to be ashamed of.

Be who you are. Be honest with yourself and others, take your time in finding out what works for you and stay safe. That's all anyone should ever ask of you.

Good luck!